How Well Do You Know Me Questions
88 questions · By Dima Tretyak, creator of DeepTalk · Updated
You've spent years with this person. You know their coffee order, probably. But do you know what they wanted to be as a kid, what makes them angry fastest, or the one thing they'd grab in a fire? A how well do you know me quiz finds out fast, and it's funnier than it sounds.
The questions are grouped from easy to hard: basics, favorites, childhood, habits, dreams and personality, then special rounds for couples and best friends, and a hard mode at the end. Some come from the DeepTalk app, and the rest were written for this page.
The basics
Warm-up questions. If you miss these, you have some catching up to do.
- 1What's my middle name?
- 2When is my birthday, and how old am I turning next?
- 3What was the first thing I bought with my own money?
- 4What's my coffee or tea order?
- 5What's my shoe size?
- 6Which hand do I write with?
- 7Where was I born?
- 8How many siblings do I have, and where do I fall in the order?
- 9What's on my phone's lock screen right now?
- 10Which song do I always skip, no matter what?
Favorites
Everyday picks that a close partner or friend should know by heart.
- 11What's my favorite movie of all time?
- 12What's my go-to order at our usual takeout place?
- 13Which month of the year do I look forward to most?
- 14What's my favorite way to spend a rainy day?
- 15What's the comfort show I'll rewatch no matter what?
- 16What's my favorite smell?
- 17What's my go-to midnight snack?
- 18Which band or artist have I seen live the most?
- 19How do I like to spend my birthday?
- 20What's a phrase I say way too often?
Rather play than scroll? DeepTalk deals these out one card at a time.
Childhood
The years before you knew each other. Points are harder to earn here.
- 21Which cartoon or show was I obsessed with as a kid?
- 22What was my most-used excuse to stay home from school?
- 23Who was my best friend in elementary school?
- 24What's the worst thing I did as a kid and got away with?
- 25What was my favorite toy growing up?
- 26What subject was I best at in school?
- 27Which song did I play on repeat at fifteen?
- 28What nickname did my family call me?
- 29Where did my family go on vacation when I was little?
- 30What food did I refuse to eat as a kid?
Habits and quirks
Small things you only notice after spending a lot of time together.
- 31What do I do when I'm nervous?
- 32What's my most used emoji?
- 33What time do I actually get out of bed on a day off?
- 34What's a word I use that nobody else seems to?
- 35Which side of the bed do I sleep on?
- 36What do I lose most often?
- 37What's my worst habit?
- 38What's the first thing I do when I get home?
- 39What do I do when I can't sleep?
- 40What do I always check I have before leaving the house?
Dreams and goals
What they want next, not just what they like now.
- 41Where in the world do I most want to go next?
- 42What's a class I keep saying I'll sign up for?
- 43What would I do first if I won the lottery?
- 44What does my dream house look like?
- 45What's one thing at the top of my bucket list?
- 46What job would I have if money didn't matter?
- 47What's something I want to get better at this year?
- 48What would I name my own restaurant?
- 49What's something I've always wanted to try but I'm scared of?
Personality
How they tick. Expect some debate about the right answer.
- 50Am I more likely to show up early or late to a party?
- 51How do I act when I'm really happy?
- 52What's the fastest way to make me laugh?
- 53What makes me angry faster than anything else?
- 54How do I handle stress: do I talk it out or go quiet?
- 55What's something I'm secretly proud of?
- 56What would I be famous for?
- 57What's a compliment that would mean the most to me?
- 58Would I rather plan a trip down to the hour or wing it?
Relationship edition
For couples. Play it on a date night, and keep score. More in our questions for couples.
- 59Where did we have our first date?
- 60What was I wearing when we first met?
- 61What's the one thing that instantly fixes my bad mood?
- 62What's my favorite thing you do for me?
- 63What's our song, according to me?
- 64Which date would I say is our anniversary?
- 65What did I think of you when we first met?
- 66What's my favorite date we've been on?
- 67Which chore will I always try to get out of?
- 68What would I plan for a perfect day together?
Best friend edition
For friends who claim to know everything about each other. Keep going with our questions to ask your friends.
- 69How did we meet?
- 70What's the funniest thing that's happened to us together?
- 71What's my go-to advice when you're going through something?
- 72Who's my celebrity crush?
- 73What's my role in our friend group?
- 74What's the most embarrassing phase I went through?
- 75Which inside joke would I bring up first?
- 76Which of my exes did you like the least?
- 77What's my signature snack on a night out?
- 78What would I grab first if my place was on fire?
Hard mode
Double points. These take real closeness, and they tend to start real conversations. For more like these, see our deep questions.
- 79What scares me that I pretend doesn't?
- 80What's something I've told you and almost nobody else?
- 81What's the best day of my life so far?
- 82What's one thing I'd change about my childhood?
- 83What's a regret I still think about?
- 84What's the thing I'm hardest on myself about?
- 85Who has influenced me the most?
- 86What's something I believe that you don't?
- 87What would I say is my biggest accomplishment?
- 88What's something that moved me more than I expected this year?
How to use these questions
- Take turns: one person asks about themselves, the other answers. One point per correct answer, two in hard mode.
- Write answers down before saying them out loud so nobody can change their guess.
- Start with the basics and favorites, then move to childhood and hard mode once you're warmed up.
- When someone gets it wrong, ask for the story. That's where the fun is.
- Playing in a group? Pair people up and let the pairs compete.
Play them as cards instead
The Do You Really Know Me deck in DeepTalk has 149 questions like these, one card at a time, plus 19 other decks for couples and friends.
Frequently asked questions
How do you play how well do you know me?
One person asks questions about themselves, and the other tries to answer correctly. Each right answer scores a point. After a round of ten or so, swap roles and compare scores. Harder questions can be worth double.
What are good how well do you know me questions for couples?
Mix everyday details with relationship memories: "What's my go-to order at our usual takeout place?", "What was I wearing when we first met?" and "What's my favorite date we've been on?" The relationship edition section above is built for exactly this.
What are hard how well do you know me questions?
Hard questions go beyond favorites into fears, regrets and turning points, like "What's the best day of my life so far?" or "Who has influenced me the most?" They're best saved for a partner or a close friend.
Can you play this as a best friend quiz?
Yes. The best friend edition covers shared history and inside jokes, and the basics and childhood sections work for friends too. You can also send the questions over text and compare answers later.